Sophisticated Simplicity

Our in-person speed dating events, matchmaking services and advice packages offer fresh alternatives for singles. Whether you’re looking for a night out with fellow singles, find one-on-one matchmaking to be just your cup of tea or searching for experienced dating advice, we bring just the right amount of savvy to suit any need.

Like a private club, not every dater is for us. We routinely screen those daters whom appear to be nice-challenged, while for those that tend to see the good in everything and everyone, the world of cheeky is theirs! With complimentary events and matchmaking opportunities - being lovely has all the perks.

In-Person Speed Dating

As a reporter for LA Talk Radio.com said, “I walked through the venue without even noticing the tables of daters; events are so chic and low key you might just walk right by.” We couldn’t have said it better ourselves. Devoid of traditional party and event trimmings, we prefer a subtle, comfortable and relaxing environment.

Matchmaking Packages

For those that prefer the same simplified experience in matchmaking we offer our 'Date Nights' free of contracts or commitments. With packages ranging from $595 - $945 - It's as simple as selecting your package, telling us your preferences and allowing us to arrange the evening. Consider us your blind date specialists!

Advice & Coaching

With over 15 years helping singles from across the world, we understand what it takes to find personal success and achieve your dating and relationship goals. Our intimate experience allows us a unique insight into an ever-evolving and changing dating landscape with all the emotion, struggles and frustrations dating can bring.

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A low key, sophisticated approach to Gay Dating in New York. Preferring a 'less is more' environment devoid of typical event trappings. Gone are the name-tags, shouting and over-the-top party trimmings. Meeting your special someone shouldn't be anything but a comfortable and relaxed experience. Creating a private club atmosphere while recognizing our clients are also our product - we reward lovely daters with discounts and complimentary events and refuse service to anyone we don't think you'll fancy meeting. This is where being lovely has it's perks!
 
Simply choose the event you wish to attend and purchase your tickets online. Any questions, concerns or advice can be called upon anytime simply by e-mailing info@SpeedNYGayDate.com
 
The night has arrived! Go the venue at the published start time for the event. There is no official start time to the speed dating portion of the evening - we like to wait for all daters to arrive, to have a moment to settle in with a refreshment and mingle should they wish.
 
Our personable hosts will assist you with your SpeedNY GayDate 'Date-Mate' Scorecard. Flirty and fun, your Scorecard is just the beginning. Chat up our Hosts for tips or simply to ask, which direction the bar is in!. Simply jot down your potential 'Date-Mates' at the bottom of your Scorecard and we'll take care of the rest. For those who garner matches, you will be notified via e-mail within 24 hours of the event ending of your 'Date-Mate' results.
 
Alas, the event is over but the night has just begun. Feel free to stay as long as you would like to mingle further. All we need are the 'Date-Mate' Scorecards to determine if love is in the air for you.
 
With a British sensibility and simplicity, we offer uncompromising value with unparalleled service. Lovely venues and our lovely Hosts to assist you with anything or anyone.
 
Mingle, Mix and Match - UK Style.

SPEED DATING FAQ

What is SpeedNY GayDate & UK Style?
SpeedNY GayDate is imported directly from the UK. It is American Speed Dating with an English touch.  A relaxed and comfortable approach to gay speed dating & matchmaking. Rewarding lovely daters with discounts and complimentary events while saying no thank you to anyone we don't think you'll fancy meeting.

Do the British Really Do it Better? 
Most speed dating parties are a bit like being at a college job fair. Complete with stop watches, whistles and a footie captain yelling “times up” in yer face! We at SpeedNY GayDate, do things a wee bit differently. We don’t find anything romantic about name tags, microphones and whistles – so we don’t use them!

Do you have to be British to attend?
Absolutely not! We are British founded and inspired but our daters are just like you.

What type of people can I expect to meet? 
We tend to draw a crowd that is intelligent and amusing, sophisticated and adventurous, while always being cheeky. Daters that don’t like to settle and tend to set the trend rather than follow it. We are in part defined by our venues and our crowd reflects such.

How do I reserve my place? 
Simply select the EVENT SCHEDULE tab on the homepage for a listing of our events. Simply register online and you're all set! No paper tickets are required. You will be sent a confirmation from us and your name will be noted on our Guest List.

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Do you screen your speed daters?
In the 14 years we have had the pleasure of serving daters we've noticed the nicer a dater is to us, our hosts and each other, the more matches they get. Much like a private club, not every dater is for us. Those that tend to see the good in everything and everyone - are just what we and our daters are looking for. If we don't think a dater is someone that fellow daters would get on with - we'll respectfully decline service and reserve the right to do so.

Are you affiliated with any 'Meet-Up' groups?
We think 'Meet-Up' is a lovely free service that gives those of similar interests the opportunity to connect. We do question businesses that promote their events through "Meet-Up" groups - only to redirect you to their own website. Some companies tout that they partner with many organizations including Craigslist offerings and 'Meet-Up' groups for their events. We do not.

What happens if the event is sold out? 
We wish we could accommodate everyone! Unfortunately, the fun goes quick! You can email Info@SpeedNYGayDate.com for information as to the process of being added to the wait list.  Also, it is a good idea to keep checking back on our website as sometimes reservations become available at the last minute. We are continually updating our event calendar.

What time should I show up for the Event?
Published start times can be found in the event description. Please try to avoid doing anything unsafe in your attempt to arrive to the event on time - we do like to wait for all participants to arrive. This may cause an event to start late but we feel a perfect opportunity to chat up the hosts, have a lovely refreshment and settle in. There is no set start time for the speed dating portion of the night - we like to wait for all daters to arrive, settle in and grab a refreshment before the speed dating portion. 

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What is a SpeedNY GayDate ‘Date Mate’?
A ‘Date-Mate’ means you have a match! You checked each other on your scorecards and your email address will be exchanged with this person 24 hours after the event. Only daters that garner matches are notified approx. 24 hours after the event.

How long will I chat with my Prospective ‘Date-Mate’? 
Chat up your prospective 'Date-Mates' 6-7 minutes at a time. Sometimes, for our larger events, this may be shortened by 1 or 2 minutes to accommodate all of the mini-dates in a timely fashion.

So Little time; So much to say. 
Don’t worry. In today’s world we tend to know in a matter of minutes if we ‘click’ with someone. You can also chat further with your prospective ‘Date-Mate’ at intermission or mingle after the event. Just have fun and go with it!

How will I know I have any SpeedNY GayDate ‘Date Mates’ and how do I contact my SpeedNY GayDate ‘Date-Mate’? 
For daters that garner matches, you will be notified via email of your ‘Date-Mate’s’ first name and email within 24 hours of the event ending. Your ‘Date-Mate’ will also receive your name and email.

Can I return for free if I don't get a match at an event?
Unlike other speed dating companies that offer free spots to those that don't receive matches, we take a different approach to returning guests. Those that receive matches, are quite popular and absolutely lovely - are often invited back with discounts or with our compliments. This ensures a fabulous pool of daters that others want to meet.

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Is Food included with my SpeedNY GayDate ticket price?
From time to time venues may provide light nibbles for the guests. This is at the venue's discretion.

How long does a SpeedNY GayDate event last? 
The length of an event is based on the number of daters in attendance. Generally, our events last about 2 hours including intermission.

What Happens when the Event is over? 
That‘s up to you! Most Daters say this is when the fun really starts! Feel free to stay and mingle for as long as you want.

I’m shy - Can I come with my Friends? 
Bring your friends, have some fun! Our hosts will gladly accommodate seating for all ticketed members of your party. If you would like to be seated together please let us know. We do ask all members of your party to email in themselves to reserve.

How Many People Will I Meet? 
SpeedNY GayDate events vary in size, anywhere from 14-20 register for any given event.

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Can I pay without doing it through the Internet? Register/Info
Payment can only be accepted through the website. We only accept payment via our secure and encrypted checkout systems. If you have questions, please feel free to contact us directly at 1-866-WE SPEED.

What Should I Wear? 
Well the British always like to dress it up. However, dress how you feel. No riff-raff please.

I Am Older or Younger than your age ranges – may I still attend? 
Of course you may. Our age ranges are merely suggestions. We offer many age range categories. Please feel free to select the age range most comfortable for you. If you don’t see a range suitable for you please check back or let us know.

Will I be photographed or filmed? 
You will absolutely not be photographed or filmed without your prior consent. While we and our daters are often called upon for special filmed events, they are scheduled as private events and are by invitation only.

What if I don't have the ability to act like a lady or gentleman?
Oh dear - how unfortunate. We do have a zero tolerance for any rudeness - of any sort. We attract such great daters but find - as in life - not every dater is ideal. Our daters are also our product and we go to great lengths to ensure everyone meets lovely daters. We want the right daters not just any daters. Behavior short of lovely will result in a dater being banned from the company. This may upset some but we feel our daters as a whole appreciate the extra effort and we hope you do too.

Can you tell me more about your promotion for Cancer Awareness?
We are super excited to announce our partnership with The Joan Gaeta Foundation for Lung Cancer Awareness. Our 'Night For Suzanne' is a great way to give back and have fun while doing it! Donate to the Joan Gaeta Foundation or any Cancer charity of your choice in the amount of your purchase - let us know you did - and we'll add you to the guest list of your desired event. It's that simple. For more information about the Joan Gaeta Foundation partnership, click here!

For additional questions, feel free to contact us at info@SpeedNYGayDate.com